The first thing that pops into my head when someone says authenticity (besides diamonds) is ‘advertising’ … seriously.
The ad world has been skating around and slyly bending the truth for, well ever… and in doing that, I don’t believe them anymore.
Ok, Ok – I do still believe I can take those pills and lose weight while I sleep – but only that one! HA
“Your reputation is in the hands of others. That’s what a reputation is. You can’t control that. The only thing you can control is your character.” Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
How true is that?
So now, after I think on the word authenticity for a little longer and go a little deeper, it takes me to people. How do you know that a person is authentic? By that I mean, that they really are the person that they say/act/portray themselves to be? The answer is sadly that you sometimes never really know.
I have gut feelings about people, always have, hopefully always will… and over time I have been right… I’ve made a few mis-steps… some I made even knowing I was making them and a couple I have actually been surprised by…
The thing is, until they prove you right and expose their true self, it is hard to tell. You may have a feeling, but you may not know why.
So to me – authenticity in people boils down to their character. It is all about who they are when nobody is watching. ANYONE can act for a short while, put on a show, say whatever they want, convince you that they may be true… but NOBODY can keep that up forever. A person’s true character ALWAYS comes out.
Which brings me to these 2 quotes:
You cannot dream yourself into a character; you must hammer and forge yourself one. Henry David Thoreau
“If you stand straight, do not fear a crooked shadow.” Chinese Proverb
SO now, let’s move on from just a person’s character and determine authenticity on another level… How you live your life.
But you may say, “That is the same as character” – and while that is true to a degree, it does not encompass it all…
You see, I say that you can be true to your character, be nice, be mean, be indifferent, sneaky, malicious, whatever it is… and still not be living your life authentically.
I think that when you don’t stand up for yourself, when you don’t speak your mind, when you ‘let things go’ too much… you aren’t being authentic to YOURSELF.
“A “No” uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a “Yes” merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble.” Gandhi
Do you really think that every single person who is selfish, or seems selfish… is crabby, or seems crabby really is that way naturally? Some are… some definitely are. no.doubt.in.my.mind.
However, I think some of these people who you can see one way.. really aren’t being true to themselves. They are hiding from something, they are ignoring something or they are too entrenched in their behavior to notice… Maybe they are that way because people are mean to them, because they are crabby or mean… see the catch-22?
Well, I try very hard to live my life authentically. I speak my mind, I say my peace, I admit my mistakes, I correct things that I can. Am I perfect? NO.WAY. Am I authentic? I’d like to think so… With me, it really is true, what you see is what you get… (ok with the exception of one picture I posted on twitter and my site… it was a professionally done picture, my hair fell straight 30 minutes after it was taken, I had great make-up on… LOL – so when you see me in person, you’d recognize me, but, well, it could just be the lighting… HA HA)
I’d like to think that everyone I meet, whether in person or online is really who they say they are… and I’ve had some cases where people’s true characters have come out – sometimes that is good and sometimes not! But for the most part I believe the best in people until I’m proved wrong… which is heart-breaking, but a part of life really.
So what is your definition of authentic?